Angel Of the Week: Heather Bramley/Boudoir Session

Angel Of the Week: Heather Bramley/Boudoir Session

Before and after of this weeks’ Angel of the Week!

Before and after of this weeks’ Angel of the Week!

Heather is a 33 year old Home Daycare Provider from Divernon, Illinois! She’s been married to her husband, Tyler, for over 10 years. They have two children ages 15 and 8 years old. She enjoys contry music, spending time with her family, going to concerts, eating Mexican food, reading, sunbathing, and reality television. She’s 4’9 (first client I ever had shorter than me!). She hates bridges! And she helps with a local non-profit foundation

We asked Heather a little bit about why she booked a session and here’s what she had to say

What made you want to have a boudoir session?

I was in a very low point in my life in 2016 and decided I needed to improve myself. I joined a health and wellness company and lost around 30lbs and finally started to feel good again! I wanted to celebrate myself and learn to love the body I have! I also wanted to do the session to have the album back for our 10 year anniversary to give my husband as a gift!

What hesitations did you have before your session?

I was worried about my “flaws”...stretch marks, saggy boobs, belly. I thought I would focus on only those in the pictures and then others would too. I didn’t have anything “sexy” to wear. I was nervous about being partly nude in front of the photographers. I wondered what people would think if they heard I had done a session.

How has your perspective of yourself changed since your session?

I am SO glad I did the session!! I finally saw myself as more than a sports bra wearing, diaper changing, T-shirt and comfy shorts mom! I felt confident, radiant, beautiful!!! I joked that even my rolls looked good!!! I was truly blown away with the whole experience from the amazing makeup and hair to the skill of the photographers to the way the pictures looked when finished! I feel empowered. I’m not ashamed of my body or that I had a session done!! I embraced my curves and what I thought were “flaws”. It was a great experience and I gained so much from it!

Were these images done for yourself or as a gift?

Both!! I did these as a way to celebrate myself for choosing to start on a more positive journey of improvement. But I scheduled it to use as a 10 year wedding anniversary gift also!

What would you say to someone considering having a boudoir session done?

Do it!! You may be nervous because you haven’t done something like this before and just don’t know what to expect, but it will be worth it!!

Photos from Heather’s boudoir session

Photos from Heather’s boudoir session

Angel of the Week: Jessie / Boudoir Photography / Ashley Reida Photography

Angel of the Week: Jessie

This week's angel of the week is Jessie Reed!  Jessie is a 32 year old Pharmacy Tech.  She's been married for 9 years and has 2 children, and 8 year old girl and a 5 year old boy.  She decided to have a session as a birthday gift for her husband and she got a lot more than that out of it!




Some of the hesitations Jesse brought in were her weight, stretch marks, and money.  Now she sees herself in a while new light! She utilized our in house financing program and got her collection paid off and delivered!

Here's what she has to say, "I look at myself in a whole new light, I no longer see the extra weight, I see beauty, a woman who never wants to see her daughter deal with the struggles of weight!"  And what she has to say to other women considering a session, "Don’t stress about loosing those last few lbs, weight changes consistently, but the way you feel in your own body should only feel great!"

Check out some of her favorite photos from her session!

Some of Jessie's favorite photos from her session

Some of Jessie's favorite photos from her session

Boudoir is not a Scary Experience / Boudoir Photography / Ashley Reida Photography

Boudoir is not Scary

I get it.

You're nervous.  You've never done anything like this before.  I've been there.  I've been in your shoes and I know what it's like to walk into a boudoir studio can completely unaware of what to expect.  You don't know this person.  You're about to really, really expose yourself.  Inside and outside.  You're about to strip down to your lingerie and maybe even be completely nude in front of a complete stranger.  I mean, what's not to be nervous about.  Unless you're already a completely confident and carefree women, you're bound to have the jitters about a boudoir experience...  but in reality, it is not a scary experience!

It's a fun, empowering experience that can change your life and boost your self confidence.

Once you get here we'll start chatting.  We will go through your wardrobe and talk about the items your brought.  I'll ask you questions and I'll get to know you.  My hair and makeup artist will start on your outer transformation and bring out all the beauty and we'l chat just like old girlfriends.  When we get started with the session, we'll usefully start with your least revealing outfit and I'll explain EVERYTHING to you.  You don't have to worry about facial expressions or posing....I will guide you through it all.  We'll only take off as much as you are comfortable with revealing.  You'll never be pressured into anything you're not comfortable with.  My mission is to ensure you have a great time and that you're result will be a more empowered version of yourself.  Some have even said their sessions were therapeutic!

Some things to remember...

1. My makeup artist and I are both regular, real women.  We understand every emotion you're going through.

2. We've had boudoir sessions taken too.

3. You'll never bare more than you're comfortable with.

4. Your images do not have to be shown to anyone or in any way.  I know you've seen work I've done, but all of those images have been given permission.  It's completely up to you.

5. We do everything we can to ensure that you have a great time.

6. We really have seen every body shape, type, size, and color.  Your body is unique to you but we've seen it all so you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about no matter what.

What my past clients have said.....

"I was very nervous because of my self image. Being told by too many people that I wasn't good enough to do the pictures, no one will want me because I'm not a 10. But from the moment I came out in my first outfit and saw your reactions, I immediately felt comfortable and had a blast. Everyone's negative comments went out the window and I felt amazing every minute." -Jordyn

" I was very nervous about exposing my body because it has many imperfections however not but 5 minutes into my session and you and jade both complemented my figure and I felt beautifully comfortable" - Lindsay

" I was nervous because I didn’t know what to expect since I’d never done something like this before. How was it going to be being naked in front of a photographer I didn’t know? How was my body going to look in the picture? What were people going to think when they found out I’d done a session? But when I got there, my nerves went away!! Ashley explained each pose and even showed me what to do. Both photographers were funny and down to earth, they played music and talked to me throughout the session! Ashley showed me only 1 picture on the back of her camera that day and I was blown away!! " -Heather

" I was so nervous but wanted to do it again. And once I got to your house, I felt comfortable and had so much fun." -Tiffany

Just basking in the sun....not nervous at all

Just basking in the sun....not nervous at all

Posing Class / Boudoir Photography / Ashley Reida Photography

Posing Class

When you come into my studio, you come as you are.  There's nothing special you need to know. You don't need to know how to pose, you don't need to know how to have a 'sexy face' me.  I'll guide you through all of that and you'll look like a bomb shell.

But I know it's nice to go into something so unfamiliar and want to know a little about what to expect.  You can practice these at home and you'll come in more prepared and more confident about your session! So let's do a little mini posing class...are you ready?

Pop Your Booty and Arch Your Back

You'll hear me say that all the time!  Pop it and arch it!  The best way to achieve this is to stand in a relaxed position and rotate your pelvis toward the floor.  This should exaggerate the curve of your spine and make your booty pop out a little in the back.

Rotating your pelvis downward accentuates your booty and gives you more curve

Rotating your pelvis downward accentuates your booty and gives you more curve

Put Your Weight on One Hip

Stand tall, pop one knee out while feet are still together.  Then cross that knee over your other leg.  This accentuates the hips and give your a tapered, feminine look.

Hip posing accentuates the curves of your hips and minimizes the waist.

Hip posing accentuates the curves of your hips and minimizes the waist.

Weight on Your Head and Your Booty

This can be done on the floor and on the wall.  It gives the girls a little lift and stretches your body out and slenderizes trouble spots.  Lay on the ground and bend your knees.  Put your head on the floor where your high pony tail would be.  Lift your back and shoulders off the floor but keep your booty on the floor.   Hawt! ;)

Weight on head and bottom lifts breasts and slims your body

Weight on head and bottom lifts breasts and slims your body

Facial Expression Tips

-When we say look at the floor or over your shoulders, we usually mean just with your don't move your head and just move your eyes in the indicated direction.

-Keep your mouth relaxed and slightly open.  Breathe through your mouth.  We don't want photos of your closed mouth. Keeping the mouth slightly open will give you a relaxed, comfortable, and sexy look.

Keep your face relaxed and breathe through your mouth

Keep your face relaxed and breathe through your mouth

What do I do with my hands? 

Busy hands are good hands.  We will usually have you grabbing or touching something....sheets, bra strap, panties, necklace.  We also like to have you run your hands over your face, across your chest, or along a well.  We keep your hands busy and it keeps you looking busy.  We like to have your hands tousling your hair some too!

Good hands are busy hands

Good hands are busy hands

Financing Your Boudoir Collection / Boudoir Photos / Ashley Reida Photography

Financing Your Collection

How to Finance Your Own Boudoir Experience with Ashley Reida Photography

Boudoir is a very powerful form of photography.  It has the ability to release your inhibitions.  It lets you rediscover who you are deep inside.  It helps you understand, love, and appreciate your body.  It's a luxury experience you'll never forget.  Something you'll look back on one day with your album in your lap and remember the day you stepped into your true self and let go of the distorted negative self image you had before.

You want this so badly but you understandably have a bit of sticker shock.  I completely get that.  Luckily, I do offer payment plans that will help as many women as possible be able to have this beautiful experience of self love, self appreciation, and self expression. 

Silhouette with light highlighting her contours

Silhouette with light highlighting her contours

Ways to Finance


PayPal is by far the easiest and most popular method of financing your boudoir collection.  You simply apply for a credit line with PayPal and you're usually approved within minutes.  You do have to have a PayPal account to apply so a great first step is to set up an account and get it linked to your bank account.  Once you're approved, PayPal will let you know how much you're approved for.  Simply use that to pay for the collection of your choice!

The benefits to PayPal financing are that you get your collection paid for up front which means your order can be placed right away and you can get your products back faster! 

Click here to apply for PayPal Financing!

In-House Financing

In-house financing can be used in the event that you do not qualify for Paypal financing.  It is set up at your reveal appointment.  Once you choose your collection, you will need at least $250 to put down towards a collection.  The remainder will be set up on a monthly payment basis for up to 6 months (12 months for the Celestial Collection).   So you can get a collection for as little as $125 per month!  An active credit/debit card on file is required.

While this is a great option, you do not receive any product (digital or physical) until your collection is paid in full and there are consequences for late and missed payments. 

Book Now!

So, what are you waiting for?  You've got this've got the confidence, you've got the motivation, and you have the options!  Get your session fee paid and get your session booked!

Click here to see my next available appointments and get your session booked!

Angel Of the Week: Trista / Boudoir Photographer / Ashley Reida Photography

This week, meet Trista, 35 year old mother and CNA

Photo collage of girl of the week

Photo collage of girl of the week

Meet 35 year old CNA, Trista!  Shes mother to 5 kiddos and was in desperate need of a confidence boost.  This fun bubbly lady came into our studio last year and was willing to try some new things! We had a ton of fun with her!

She came in, busted out some new confidence, and now sees herself in a different light.  Finances were a bit of an issue for her but this experience is something she valued and felt that she needed for herself. She says to anyone having hesitations, "Just do it, you won't regret it"

Check out some of her photos below!

Boudoir collage

Boudoir collage




At Home Date Nights

At Home Date Nights - by Samantha Jones

How often do you find yourself wanting to do something fun and intimate with your spouse, but you cannot find a sitter? Often, right? I am here to save the day with my list of at home date nights you can do after the kids go to bed, or even dates for when the kids are not home! This list will include everything from simple to sexy dates, have fun!

  1. Let’s Get Cooking!- This is my first idea because cooking is my true passion. When you and your partner cook together, you can work on your bonding through teamwork, and you can create flavors that you both enjoy. Here are some fun ideas for what to cook:

  • Spaghetti (Bonus points for a Lady and the Tramp moment)

  • Fondue (Melted chocolate…what could be more sexy?)

  1. Craft Night- Bring out your inner child. Make macaroni jewelry for her, make a picture frame with a picture of the two of you in it for him. Make things using materials that you already have around your house, make it more of a challenge. Draw pictures, color in a coloring book, do whatever you can to bring out the creativity in each other.

  2. Movies and Popcorn- Keep it simple with cuddling and a movie. This is a date that will cost you pretty much nothing. Keep it light with a rom-com, or make it scary to give you a little more of a reason to cuddle. Extra butter on the popcorn please!

  3. Wine Tasting- Now this one will cost you a little bit of money. Go to the store and buy3-5 bottles of different kinds of wine, and 5 random snacks (cheese, crackers, meats, chips, etc.) Work together to see which snacks pair well with which wines and create different flavor profiles. In the end, you will probably have a nice little buzz, so light some candles, turn on some mood music, and do whatever strikes your fancy 😉

  4. Game Night- One of my favorite things to do is play board games. Dig out your old board games or head to your local store and pick out some new oness to keep at home. Some of my favorites are Life and Monopoly. These are all games that are possible to play with two players. One thing I love about board games is that they encourage communication and problem solving, both of which are essential to a relationship. (Ashley's note: try some awesome kids games to shake shit up! Twister, Flapdoodle, and Operation come to mind!)

Some of these date ideas can be combined to create the ultimate home date, for example, cook dinner together and then watch movies. There’s a classic date night, but at home. I had so many ideas for this blog but if I gave them all, this entry would be forever long. Let us know some of your at home date ideas in the comments. We’d love to hear from you!

Liquid Lipstick Comparison

I don't know about you, but I really get tired of reapplying lipstick throughout the day or looking down to see lipstick on my straw or whatever food I am eating. Because of this, I decided to choose four different liquid lipsticks and compare them side by side based on price, formula, and wear time. I wanted to see if you really get what you pay for, here are my results. 


Product: Too Faced Melted Matte Liquid Lipstick

Price: $21 at (Hint Hint: Ulta has it 50% off on 03/30)

Shade: It's Happening!

Wear time: 1 hr 53 min

Pros: Highly pigmented, silky texture, beautiful color selection, decent applicator, little to no transfer immediately after application

Cons: Price, drying, begins to peel about two hours after application, difficult to remove, can stain area around the mouth after removal

Rating: 6/10

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Product: Elf Liquid Matte Lipstick

Price: $5 at

Shade: Wine Tour

Wear time: 1 hr 53 min

Pros: Price, dries quickly, silky texture, very nice applicator, zero transfer, comparable to Too Faced at a lower price point (save yourself the $16 extra dollars!)

Cons: Drying, begins to peel within a couple of hours, difficult to remove, can stain area around the mouth after removal

Rating: 6.5/10

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Product: NYX Lip Lingerie

Price: $6.99 at

Shade: French Maid

Wear time: 2 hr 50 min

Pros: Great for those who prefer nude shades, creamy texture, not sticky, was not drying compared to others, easier to remove, does not stain, price

Cons: Cheap applicator, less pigmented, a small amount of transfer after application

Rating: 7/10 



Product: Lipsense (lipstick and glossy gloss)

Price: $25 lipstick/$20 gloss through your local distributor

Shade: Kiss For A Cause/Glossy Gloss

Wear time: Undetermined (I applied mine at 3:30 pm yesterday, it is now 8:43 am and the color is still in full swing)

Pros: WEAR TIME!, zero color transfer on tissue test (some gloss came off), color selection, very pigmented, comparable to the quality of Christian Louboutin Loubilaque ($85) but lasts much longer

Cons: must apply gloss often to prevent peeling, application burns for first few uses (you get used to it), somewhat of a perfume scent, tastes horrible if you accidentally get some in your mouth, price

Rating: 8.5/10 (the pros outweigh the cons, considering how often you need to reapply other lipsticks, you probably actually save money using Lipsense)

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As you can see, you do not always get what you pay for. Lipsense was the clear winner for my experiment, but if the price point is not in your budget, both Elf and NYX liquid lipsticks are decent substitutes. I do not recommend wasting your money on Too Faced because in my opinion, the more affordable brands are better quality. Ironically though, the Too Faced is what I have been using every day, and my own experiment just changed my mind. What is your favorite liquid lipstick and what do you love about it? Let us know!

It's okay to say "No"

Sorry, Not Sorry

Contrary to popular belief, it's okay to say no. Many people believe that the key to a happy life is to always say yes because if you always say yes, you will never miss out. With that being said, always saying yes can also get you into very stressful situations that could have easily been avoided. 

Anyone who knows me knows that the word "no" is not a word that I normally use. I am all for excitement, adventure and trying new things. Being fun and spontaneous are great qualities to have, but it is important to know when to say no. 

Only you know what you are and are not comfortable with and what the main stressors are in your life. Not to sound selfish, but you must care for yourself before you care for anyone else. Now, mothers, I know what you may be thinking, "My children come first" or if you are married, "My husband/wife comes first". While this is a selfless thought, there are things you need to think about. Can your children be properly taken care of by someone who is not physically, emotionally and mentally healthy? Sure, you can get by, but is this the best way? Wives/girlfriends, can a relationship survive if one or both partners are not happy with themselves? Again, you can get by, but this does not make for a healthy relationship. 

I want you to look at the things in your life that stress you out. Are you overwhelmed at work, but your boss is asking if you'd like to take some voluntary overtime? Are your kids acting out, but your friend is asking you to babysit so that she can go get her nails done? Are you strapped for cash, but your family asked you to go out to dinner on Friday night? These are all situations in which most of us feel inclined to say yes because we feel that if we say no, someone will be upset with us. In situations such as these though, we need to consider the repercussions that saying yes will have on us. If you say yes to your boss about the overtime, you are sacrificing time with your family and sleep. If you say yes to your friend about babysitting her children, you risk getting overwhelmed and raising your blood pressure which can cause both physical and emotional issues. If you say yes to your family about eating out, you risk not being able to feed your family for the rest of the week or not having enough gas to get to work for the rest of the week. 

If it doesn't feel right or it will put you in a bind, just say no. It will be okay. Maybe someone will be upset with you for a few days, but when you consider your other options, this is not a big deal. Also, do not feel the need to explain yourself. If someone is truly upset with you for saying no to a small favor, is that really the kind of person you want in your life anyway? Just as the world does not owe you anything, you do not owe the world anything. If there is any chance that a certain situation will harm you physically, mentally or emotionally, say no and don't feel the need to make an excuse. My challenge for you this week is to let us know what you said no to this week, and why you feel good about it. Once you are finished reading this, go back to the Facebook post and leave us a comment using #ISaidNo.

Tips for Taking the Perfect Nude Selfie

It's a struggle that most of us have had, but have yet to perfect a solution. NUDE SELFIES! Maybe your hubby or wife is away on a business trip and you want to send them a nice surprise, or maybe you just want to feel sexy for yourself. Either way, I am here to help you with tips for taking the perfect nude selfie.


1. Angle. Let's start with an easy one, boobies! I think the best angle for a boob photo  is straight ahead.  Sometimes, taking a photo of your boobs from below or above can make them look...for lack of better words....saggy? To add some depth, you might think about taking the photo from the side, but still consider keeping it at boob level. Maybe you want add a little more fullness or extra cleavage? Just use the tops of your arms to squeeze the girls together. This works both standing or sitting up, and laying down. Now for the hard part. Anyone who has tried to take nude selfies knows that the hardest one to perfect is the booty. It is just sooooo hard to get that angle that really flatters those curves. My secret for booty nudes is to take the photo from below the booty and to the side. If you capture the photo from above the booty, you don't really capture all of the important curves. If you capture the photo from below, and just to the side, you can see everything. See the photo below for an example. Remember though, only you know what angles you look best at and what you are most comfortable with, so just do what feels right to you.



2. Lighting. Don't use flash. Make sure you have enough light, but not too much. Too much light can be very unflattering. With that being said, don't let the photo be too dark either. If it's too dark, it kind of defeats the purpose. I recommend going into a room with good natural light, and that should be just enough. If it's dark outside, a decently lit room is also fine. The right lighting makes a huge difference, so use your best judgment on this one.


3. Be mysterious. People, men especially, are visual creatures. One thing you may want to consider when taking nudes, is to not be completely nude. Consider wearing your favorite pair of sexy panties if taking a booty nude. If you are taking a boob shot, consider wearing a sexy bra with maybe just a little bit of nipple showing, or even just wear see-thru lingerie. Leave a little mystery, it'll drive your partner wild. 


4. Take shower selfies. This is my favorite time to take nudes. I just think that wet skin has a sexier look than dry skin. One thing you can try is before getting in the shower, rub some baby oil on the boobies and the booty. When water hits your skin, it will create a water droplet effect that looks uber hot. Once this happens, take the selfie! This is one of my favorite tips.


5. Experiment. Taking the same nudes can get boring. Take nudes EVERYWHERE! Getting ready for bed? Take some nudes. Already in bed? Take some nudes. In the shower? Take some nudes? Fresh out of the shower? Take some nudes. In a hotel on vacation? Take some nudes. Take nudes standing up. Take nudes sitting down. Take nudes laying down. Take nudes bending over. Find out what looks best for you. Dress it up. Take it all off. Keep doing things differently, and keep it interesting. 


6. Be careful. I'm going to turn into Captain Obvious real quick. Do not send your nudes to people you barely know. Take this from someone who has learned their lesson the hard way. If you insist on doing this anyway, for the love of all things holy, DO NOT INCLUDE YOUR FACE OR ANY FEATURES (such as visible tattoos) THAT WILL GIVE YOU AWAY! If you are going to send nudes, just make sure it's to someone that you trust completely, and don't accidentally text it to the wrong person. Hey, it happens!


In closing, sending nudes is very fun if done in the right way. Just sending one to your partner while they are at work can make for a very fun night when they get home. Have fun, be safe, and get to snapping!

-Samantha Jones, Ashley Reida Boudoir Blogger



-If you have a good camera, a tripod and a shutter remote work wonders!

-Arch the back and POP that booty (actually helps the booty AND boobies)




April Showers, May Flowers

"Sweet April showers, Do spring May flowers." -Thomas Tusser


To many people, this quote has a literal translation. Those who look more closely though will see the true meaning. Even the darkest of days will eventually bring beauty. I don't know about you, but there is something about the rain that depresses me at times. However, sometimes I do choose to see the beauty in it. As April draws near, I think it is very important that we keep a close eye on our happiness, positivity, and mental well-being. Turn all the rain into something positive and use the month of April to make yourself a better you, and love yourself. You may not see a lot of sunshine, but you should and you can make your own sunshine. As I sit here in my bedroom (while it rains), I decided it would be a great idea to compile a list of things you can do to make yourself a better you this April.



1. I believe that every woman should love the body that she came in, but with that being said, we are human. As humans, we are rarely satisfied with what we are given. I cannot count how many times I have heard a woman express her dissatisfaction with her body. So, my first challenge for you is to incorporate some sort of exercise into your daily routine. This morning, I did a 10-minute workout. I have a super busy schedule, and I know many of you do too. You will be surprised how much better a 10-minute cardio or yoga sesh will make you feel, and if you have a little more time, make it 30 minutes. Do not overdo it though, just do whatever you are comfortable and happy with. Exercise has so many benefits, both mental and physical.


2. Soak up the sun, when you can. Of course, sunny days in April may be few and far between, but when they happen, you should really take advantage of it. The sun provides vitamin D which is essential in helping with depression. Just a few minutes of exposing your bare skin to sunlight can make you feel so much better. Consider taking a vitamin D supplement (after speaking with your doctor about it, of course) on those rainy days when you cannot get any outside time.


3. Do what you love, and get things done. Do all of the things that bring joy to your life, but also do all of the things you have been putting off. If you are stuck inside, create a playlist of your favorite music and clean out that storage room you've been meaning to clean for....6 months now? Fold your laundry, but watch your favorite movie while you are doing it (Beauty and the Beast, anyone?). Wash your dishes, but sing some karaoke. Tackle all of those indoor tasks you've been putting off, but incorporate some of your favorite things to do. You'll thank yourself tomorrow.


4. Pamper yourself. Go get your nails done, or do your own nails. Go get your hair done, or curl your own hair. Do you normally go without makeup? Put a little bit on, make yourself feel sexy, you deserve it. Take a bath instead of a shower. Take the kids to their grandparents or a friend and have a date night with your spouse, or boyfriend or girlfriend....which leads me to my next tip.


5. Have sex. Have LOTS of sex. Let's be honest, sex with the right person fixes EV-UH-REE-THANG. That stack of Cosmo magazines just sitting on your desk because you haven't had time to read them, read them. They have sex tips in them....ALL OF THEM DO! Try them out! This is really my best tip. 


6. If all else fails, dance in the rain (but not if there is lightning). The more it rains, the more I realize that there is nothing I can do about it. Enjoy what you are given, and let go of what you cannot control. Yeah, that is literal and metaphorical. 


Seriously though, go out and dance in the rain, because the rain is a reminder of the beauty that is yet to come.

-Samantha Jones, Blogger for Ashley Reida Boudoir

10 Reasons You Should Have a Boudoir Session

10 Reasons You Should Have a Boudoir Session

Did you know that boudoir is about more than just wearing lingerie and looking sexy?  There are a lot more benefits to a session then just having some interesting pictures to look at!  Here are 10 reasons ( in no particular order ) you should book your own boudoir session!


1. A Boudoir Session will increase your self esteem, self confidence, and self worth.

We are always our own worst critics.  We look in the mirror and ONLY see our flaws.  We're not used to noticing the nicer aspects of ourselves.  When you have a boudoir session, you really get to see yourself from another perspective.  From someone else's perspective.  You get to see that you truly are a beautiful person, inside and out.  Many girls have come in and cried at their reveals!

Imagine, putting on the dress...and instead of thinking you can't pull it off (because of YOUR insecurities) you remember what everyone else really sees...a bombshell!

2. A Boudoir Session is fun!

I like having fun with my girls (I call them Ashley's Angels).  Most usually come in pretty nervous, and that's completely normal.  I get them relaxed by chatting with them and we joke around.  We laugh about how silly some poses are and dance around to music.  Sometimes I take them to do fun things ... like playing in mud!  Everyone's experience is different.  I keep the atmosphere light and my girls always leave telling me "That's not as bad as I thought it wold be! I actually had fun!"

3. A Boudoir Session gives you an excuse to get all dressed up!

Girls that come in for a session with me are treated to professional hair and makeup.  You get to get all girlied up and pretty!  And it's a great excuse to get all dolled up!  After your session, you can hit the town for date night and still look FAB!

4. A Boudoir Session gives you an excuse to go SHOPPING!  Or not, if you hate shopping!

A lot of women love to shop for pretty things!  Lingerie is one of the ultimate pretty things.  And shoes. And jewelry. And a pretty dress...and.....

But, if you hate shopping, I do carry a selection of lingerie in my client closet that you are welcome to choose from so that you don't have to deal with that aspect.

5. A Boudoir Session gives you an excuse to wear your pretty lingerie for more than 2 seconds!

We all know it,  We put on a sexy number to entice our lover and it's literally on your body for 2 seconds...or less!  And the amount of money that is sometimes invested in pieces given the amount of time you actually wear them is astronomical!  So bring all your pretties to me and let me photograph you in them!  You'll wear each piece for 15-30 minutes and have photos to remember how BOMB you look in it!

6. A Boudoir Session makes a great gift!

First off, you should have a boudoir session first and foremost for YOURSELF!  But, next to that, they do make excellent gifts!  Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, Father's Day, Weddings, Christmas....or just for the hell of it.  Very few lovers out there would complain about getting an album full of sexy images from their woman!

7. A Boudoir Session gives you a chance to get a day away from it all!

This is the ultimate break from routine!  Schedule a day off work.  Get a babysitter for the kids for the day.  Take a break from the normal household duties you've got. You deserve a day to yourself!  Instead of taking a sick day and staring at the boob tube all day, come and get some boob pics! Haha! I kid...unless you want boob pics....

8. A Boudoir Session celebrates who you are RIGHT NOW!

Do you love your curves, or wish to love them?  Did you just lose weight?  Did you just get a divorce?  Did you just get married?  Are you pregnant?  Do you want to remember your body before you get pregnant? Did you just turn 30? 40? 50? 60?

Whatever your circumstances, a boudoir session right now will help you remember this time in your life.  And it will help you remember that you're a badass! 

On a personal note, I recently had a boudoir session at my HEAVIEST weight.  I desired to love myself as I was and decided to go for it so that even when I eventually get the weight off, I can look back and still love my body like it is now.  To remember that my weight loss journey wasn't because I didn't love my body or my curves, rather that I was leading an unhealthy life.  And I didn't love my body...but after my session I just look in the mirror and 75% of the time think DAYUM GIRL THOSE CURVES!!!  (The other 25% of the time I still nit pick like any other woman but it was a much higher percentage before my session)

9. A Boudoir Session lets you be someone you aren't usually.

You go to work.  You take care of the kids. You clean the house. You do yard work. You cook dinner.  You wear so many hats.  And yet there's something buried in there that wants out.  A sexy kitten, a naughty librarian, a she wolf, a badass babe.  What's under everything that we can let out?  A boudoir session give you the opportunity to express who you are and incorporate your interests into your under the covers persona.

10. A Boudoir Session gives you an excuse to pamper yourself!

Not that you need an excuse...but some of us have a hard time justifying spending time or money on ourselves when we have soooo many other obligations. 

Now is the time to get a manicure, get a pedicure, tan a little bit (not a lot), get your hair done ( I don't recommend anything completely new just before your session in case you don't love it), eat healthy, and generally take care of yourself so that you look and feel amazing during your session!

Download our FREE guide with 5 tips to boost your confidence!



Top 5 Sexy Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Guy

Sexy Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Guy

Spice Up Your Love Life This Christmas

Tis the Season!   Why not spice up your relationship with some sexy, fun Christmas gifts for your guy?  Women don't always have to be the ones to initiate the fun!  Let him open these gifts that will lead to the ultimate!  I've selected my top 5 Christmas gifts to spice up your relationship this Christmas! Enjoy!

(PS...this blog does contain affiliate links pictures that you can click and buy if you'd like and I do get a small kick-back....but you love me so...... :P )

1. Positioning Pillow

This baby is a sexy gift with a sexy secret.....he will think it's fun to try a new position....but you'll find it helps reach certain areas....ahem....I know this from experience.

There are all sorts of them in all different shapes and sizes but my favorite one is this one:

2. A Boudoir Session

That's a given!  You might not have time to do this before Christmas but you can always get your session booked and then purchase lingerie and give him a little heads up on what to expect soon!!! 

As an added bonus, a boudoir session can help you build up your self confidence and make you feel more attrative, when you feel more attractive, people find you more attractive...its a confidence thing <3


3. Bedroom Games

The same old routine can get boring this Christmas, use some of these fun ideas to mix it up a little.  Play a game, try new positions, give IOU's.  The checks would make a great stocking stuffer!! can also buy white sheets and make a game board on them with each space representing something the other has to do with each other...grab 2 space moves and a dice and you'll both WIN!

4. Satin Boxers

Ummmmm Yummy!!! I'm pretty sure you can find these anywhere but I linked some pretty ones for you in case you don't want to go to the store ;) Hehe....

Are these more for feel fab?  Or for you?  Imaging cuddling up to silk boxers!  Beats the holey ones that are his favorite......not speaking from experience or anything....

5. A Massage....for both of you!

Use these together to set the mood!  Oil, massage gloves, music, candles....perfection!  Just remind him he needs to GIVE to GET!  If you know what I mean.....

PRO TIP: ALL of the massage products will fit in a maybe a massage themed stocking? ;)

I hope you ladies enjoyed my top 5 sexy Christmas gift ideas for your guy I came up with!  Have fun shopping for your lover! 

Merry Christmas! <3

Twin Mom's Boudoir Experience

 I went into this boudoir session with Ashley Reida and I was extremely nervous! She not only assured me that my body was beautiful, but beautiful just the way it was. I am beyond self conscience about my body, she helped me overcome that by helping me see the beauty within. 

       I haven't even been able to wear a bathing suit to the beach that doesn't cover everything because of the body issues I have. I am a mother of twin 8 year old girls and the stretching, sagging, weight gain that all goes along with that. I was never able to get back into shape. I felt unbelievably unattractive. 

       After my session with Ashley she made me feel like a goddess on my own skin! Made me realize I still can be sexy no matter how I look. That comes from the inside. I WOULD HAVE NEVER HAD THIS NEW FOUND CONFIDENCE WITHOUT HER! I can't say enough good things about her.


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Lingerie Alternatives

Lingerie Alternatives for Your Boudoir Shoot

Some women hate lingerie.  Some women think its too revealing.  And some women want something a little creative and out of the box.  And the truth don't HAVE to wear it...and you don't HAVE to be naked to avoid it!  There are plenty of lingerie alternatives for your boudoir shoot! You just have to think a little outside of the box and gather up all the cute anti-lingerie accessories you'll want to have before your photography session.  Below are some excellent lingerie alternative ideas!

lingerie alternative white sheets

lingerie alternative white sheets

-Husband/Partner's button up shirt with bra and panties to provide more coverage

-Jersey with your or your significant other's favorite sports team paired with undies.  What better way to celebrate football season!

-Off the shoulder sweater can be sexy and provide coverage and leave some to the imagination.  Plus shoulders are totally sexy

-Lacy or satin robes can be used to cover up lingerie and bra and panties. Or yourself.

-Sexy dresses....boudoir is sexy photography.  It doesn't always mean you need to be nude or partially nude! Bring in your favorite killer dress!

-Bathing suits can make for fun beach type boudoir shoots!

-Sheets covering your body strategically can imply sexiness and possible nudity without exposing you at all.

-Jeans that are unzipped showing a little bit of lacy panty with a button up shirt that's mostly unbuttoned....and a cowboy hat will be sure to set your cowboy on fire!

Have fun planning the pieces that will replace or accent lingerie in your boudoir shoot!

Can you think of some other alternatives? Comment below! I'd love to hear your ideas!

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lingerie alternative jersey

5 Pieces of Flattering Boudoir Lingerie for Every Body Type

5 Pieces of Flattering Lingerie for Every Body Type

When you book your boudoir session, one of the most daunting tasks is shopping for lingerie because you have no idea what looks good on you. We're here to help! We've gathered 5 pieces of lingerie for each body type: Apple, Pear, Hourglass, and Square shaped women.  Find your body type get a head start on lingerie shopping!

Boudoir Lingerie for Apple Shape Women

Apple shaped women have larger mesurements through the bust and waist but tend to have thinner hips and arms and legs. Lingerie should support the top and accentuate the bottom while still paying homage to natural assets.

1. Corset- A corset is a very popular piece of boudoir lingerie that will slim the tummy and accentuate the bust of apple shaped women.

2. Sheer Flowy Nighties- A sheer flowy nightie is a sexy piece of lingerie that will fall on your body in a flattering way that will balance the hips and give a sexy sneak peek!

3. Deep Demi Bra with Supportive Underwire- Apple shaped women tend to have heavier breasts and need as much support as possible, so make sure your bra is deep cut to show off the gorgeous cleavage and and underwire to support the weight.

4. Lacy V High Rise Panties- Since Apple shaped women tend to have slimmer hips, most of the attention goes towards the bustier top.  Bring attention to your hips and balance out your shape by wearing underwear that have a v shape and a little lace.

5. Cami- A cami will balance out your top figure - especially paired with the above mentioned panties.


Boudoir Lingerie for Pear Shaped Women

Pear shaped women are wider in the hips and smaller in the bust.  Pear shaped women need to choose lingerie that will balance out the figure by accentuating the bust and playing down the hips.

1. Ruffle Bras - Choose bras that have a lot of fun ruffles to bring attention to the breasts.

2. Chiffon Gowns - Chiffon gowns are sexy lingerie pieces that will bring attention to the top portion while skimming the hips.  This will keep from bringing TOO much attention to the hips.

3. High Rise Thongs and Boy Shorts - High rise lingerie lengthens the body line.  This can work to the advantage of a pear shaped woman by slimming the hips.

4. Fly Away Baby Doll - The fly away baby doll will bring attention to the topportion of your body by creating an angle to accentuate the area.  The fly away portions skim the hips in a sexy way and balance the body.

5. Padded Push Up Bras - Push up bras will accentuate the cleavage and give the illusion that there's more up top.

Boudoir Lingerie for Hour Glass Figured Women

Women with an hour glass figure tend to have similar measurements in the bust and the hips and a slimmer waist.  Most lingerie flatters women with hourglass figures.

1. Bodysuit - A body suit is a piece of lingerie that is all once piece.  They can come in different materials from leather to lace.  Deep v-necks in these suits add an extra bit of sexiness to these pieces

2. Corset - A corset will accentuate smaller waists as well as compliment ample cleavage. Pair with a sexy thong.

3. Garter Belt - Traditionally used to hold up thigh highs but now widely considered as a sexy piece of lingerie.  A garter belt will draw attention to the smaller waist of a woman with an hourglass figure.

4. Form Fitting Slips - Draw attention to your symmetric curves with a form fitting slip or nighty.  It will hug your curves from top to bottom.

5. Bra and Panty Combos - Bring attention to the bust and the hips wearing supportive bras and matching or complimentary colored underwear. 


Boudoir Lingerie for Square Shaped Women

Women with a square shaped body tend to have smaller bust and hips that line up similarly to the measurement of the waist.  Choosing lingerie that creates curves in the body will help make your photos have the wow effect!

1. G-strings and Thongs - G-strings and thongs will create the illusion from behind of more of a booty by outlining in the appropriate places

2. Ruffle Matching Bra and Panty Sets - Ruffles and bows and Lace are all great go-to lingerie options for square shaped women.  Ruffles especially add volume to the chest and hips.  Choose bras with ruffled cups and underwear with ruffles on the hips to add the illusion of curves to your body.

3. Demi Cup Push Up Bras - Demi cup push up bras add an extra cup size to your bust and create cleavage where it may not naturally exist.

4. V-Cut Underwear - Similar to thongs, V- cut underwear create a similar illusion of curves while being a more modest option.

5. Ruffle Skirts -These are a fun lingerie option that hide slimmer hips and add a sexy flirty vibe to your boudoir photo session.

Boudoir Lingerie for ALL Body Types

Here's a list of lingerie that flatters all body types.

1. Nighties - Full piece nighties can hide the tummy area which is a pain point for a lot of women, especially mothers and is a great piece of flattering boudoir lingerie.  Fly away nighties are a fun option to add a bit of extra flirt to your boudoir session.

2. Fishnet pieces - Fishnet dresses are a fun piece that can be worn alone or over a bra and panty set.  It accentuates curves and depending on the cut and sleeves, can hide trouble areas.

3. Stockings - Stockings are an often overlooked piece of lingerie that can add fun to other pieces you wear.  You can also get shots of you putting on the stockings which will make you feel sexy and that most men love to see.

4. Solid Curve Hugging Slips - Non- see through slips that hug the body will accentuate curves and hide tummy rolls, slimming your figure.  Its a more modest option but there's nothing wrong with leaving a little to the imagination.

5. Lacey Robes - Lacy robes are an essential boudoir lingerie piece.  It can be used to put on to keep covered between sets and can be used in portraits to increase the sexy vibe and cover up problem area.  It's one of the most versatile lingerie pieces available.

Stay tuned! We will soon write about fun alternatives to lingerie for your boudoir session!


5 Tips for a Perfect Selfie

Do you want some tips for taking the perfect selfie?


I used to hate selfies...but then I saw a quote that went something along the lines of "I am so pro-selfie.  There are bigger issues in the world than a woman thinking she is beautiful.  One of them is women who don't think they're beautiful."  That really hit home fore I decided to set up a group for self(ie) love.  You can request to join it here.

Spawning off from that I thought I'd create a fun video that gives 5 tips for taking the perfect selfie...or at least a better selfie!


For those of you that don't want to watch my 3.5 minute video, here are the selfie tips laid out for you...although I think you should watch the video because I demonstrate! And it's hilarious! :)


It's just not cute.  It's not sexy.  Please don't do it. Keep it out of your selfie and in the chicken dance. Or duck that even a thing?

Tip 2. Separate your chin from your neck.

The easiest way to do this is to think like a swan...stretch your neck up, jut chin forward and then tilt it down.  That keep the double chin from happening in your selfie.

Tip 3. Smile!

Please smile in your selfie....we love to see makes you look happy!  If RBF is your thing, that's cool..but work for at least 75% smiles and 25% RBF!!

Tip 4. Make eye contact with your lens!

Don't stare at your reflection! You're connecting with your audience, not yourself!  Also, smile with your eyes! There's a big difference between a connection with a smile and a connection without a give yourself a genuine smile that lights up your whole face...then either keep the smile or drop the smile but KEEP THE SMILE IN YOUR EYES...simply let the smile just on your mouth drop...and look in the gives an intense connection with your audience so your selfie can be a big hit!

Tip 5.  Make sure the lighting is good!

There's nothing that ruins a selfie more than bad lighting.  Except maybe a duck face! Yikes.  A naturally sunlit room gives the BEST lighting and is the most flattering....just no direct sunlight on your face will wash you out and you will squint and that's not attractive. Avoid low light areas and if you cannot snapchat has a really cool selfie feature that give you a small flash in the frame!  

Enjoy the tips and make your selfie PERFECT!  



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